A Relatively Ordinary Life

Perspectives on things seen, heard, and experienced

As I reflect on this holiday weekend and look ahead to the short, crazed month of December, I realize that I am pretty lucky person. Despite the ups and downs of the past few months and well okay the past few years, I can actually say that I am lucky. I guess people get nostalgic around the holidays. For me it’s a constant battle between the desire to get into the holiday spirit and the pain of missing those that are no longer here to deck the halls with me.

When I get a bit melancholy I try to focus on the good and like I said before I am lucky. So here are the five things that I am concentrating on this year:

1. My family. It might sound rather cliché but I really owe my mom and sister a lot. Without their strength and support who knows what would have become of me? Even when I am down and out and just a pure pain in the butt to be around, they are there. I have two of the best cheerleaders and mentors that anyone could ever ask for. They are my rock – my foundation.

2. My friends. So I might not be setting records with the number of friends on Facebook or contacts on LinkedIn but I have friends from every stage of my life that are true friends not just a number on a social media site. Whether it’s the girls I grew up with (we all suffered through those hideous uniforms) or the friends I made in high school, the years and the miles (in some cases, more than half the globe) do not stand between us. And my friends from college – oh, my Loyola Bunch – what would I do without them? It’s the friendships that grow and keep expanding. It’s the friends who look at me and know something is just not right. And the others that I have met and bonded with through insane work environments complete with the crazy bosses and the tears and the Limoncello. Truly, I am lucky.

3. My health. It’s a funny thing when you start to recognize that you’re not getting any younger. Milestone birthdays always have a way of making you think about the diseases and chronic ailments that seemed like something only “old” people had to deal with. I’m thankful that I am in control of my health and that I can do everything that I want to especially when I recognize that there are other who can’t do what they want to do or need to do.

4. My memories. A window into my past and a way to hold onto those that we truly love and miss. Memories like the funny sayings or the rake-dancing on the front lawn make me smile. I can smile because I have in my heart and mind the most important connection to those who are no longer here.

5. Brussells sprouts, giraffes, wine tours, and the tiny muscles in my shoulders. A strange grouping of things but each of them is about trying something new, laughing, and pushing myself just a bit harder. The sprouts are simply about trying new food. A vegetable that I did not ever think I would like but found that I simply love once sautéed in a little Honey Dijon mustard. The giraffe signifies meeting new challenges. So when faced with a handful of carrots and a very large hungry giraffe, what do you do? It was simply the most interesting day. The wine tour, well wine tours are always something special, especially when you get to taste wonderful mixtures all from your state. And the tiny little muscles in my shoulders are absolutely the most empowering thing. I’m the girl who could not lift a box or do a push up but now, after months of having my butt kicked but a fantastic trainer, I have definition in my shoulders. I am by no means a body builder but I have definition. It’s about pushing myself and seeing the results.

It’s a list of somewhat expected items and a one or two with a twist but it is about my life and what makes me smile – really smile. What makes you smile? What are you the most thankful for this year?

… And I like chocolate, wine (red or white, I am not prejudice), bread, and pasta.

Some might call me a food-lover but most doctors call me overweight.  Like millions of others I am in constant battle with the scale. While the scale might not be truthful (I do still believe that it likes to see me squirm), pictures don’t lie and every time I hold my breath and pray a dress will zipper (and not split when I sit) I come closer to the realization that I need to win this war.

So I am an active Weight Watcher. I admit it. I track points and go to meetings.

I wasn’t always heavy. In fact, I was an underweight child. I found the comforting arms of food after I broke my ankle and was in a toe-to-mid-thigh cast. So I ate and sat on my butt because there was nothing to do when you were wrapped up like a partial mummy.

I remember hating gym class in grammar school. I will go out on a limb and make a general statement that most overweight kids hate gym. But beyond the general hate for anything that made me move and shake the jiggly fat, I remember the Presidential Fitness tests of the 1980s. For those of you unfamiliar with the program it included timed sessions of sit-ups, pull-ups and required everyone to run a mile. Times and numbers were reported. Where that information went I will never know but I remember hanging from the pull-up bar because I had no strength in my arms to pull my own body weight up. I remember the humiliation of not being able to run even one quarter of a mile and then having to walk the remaining three laps around the track. I sometimes wonder if my dislike for cardiovascular activities started somewhere around that track?

Adding cardio back into my exercise routine is a big step for me. I love strength training – the power of having muscle tone is amazing (even if it is still hidden by some fat). However, I recently completed a 5K walk and loved it. I started to think about why it took me so long to get back to walking and enjoying the cardio rush and I found myself asking – “Whatever happened to the Presidential Fitness program?”

After some research it turns out that what is now called the President’s Council on Fitness, Sports & Nutrition (it’s had many names over the decades) was started in 1953 because there was concern about the physical fitness of American children compared to their European counterparts. This organization sponsors the President’s Challenge where schools and students now get awards for ranking in or above the 85 percentile in the five tested areas. Well, if I knew I would get an award, I would have tried harder. Not.

Almost 60 years have passed and we’re still trying to get kids to exercise more and eat better. Something is terribly wrong here.

When the First Lady goes on national television doing jumping jacks from the White House lawn to beat a world record and encourage kids to exercise, I think we hit an all-time low. Why are we still having such a problem with food as a country? According to “Let’s Move: America’s Move to Raise a Healthier Generation” it’s our lifestyle including portion size and sugary foods. The website states:  “In total, we are now eating 31 percent more calories than we were forty years ago–including 56 percent more fats and oils and 14 percent more sugars and sweeteners. The average American now eats fifteen more pounds of sugar a year than in 1970.”

I think that’s part of the problem. Another reason is that we’ve replaced movement with the computer. It used to be that we went to school and had the major subjects – math, history, English – but we also had gym. Today’s gym classes are not what they used to be. In fact, according to the Shape of the Nation Report issued in June 2010, “forty-three percent of states (22) allow required physical education credits to be earned through online physical education courses.” Now, tell me how that helps kids get in shape?

We also have to stop messing with the Food Guidelines. The pyramid is now replaced by MyPlate in the Let’s Move program. Check out the History of food guidelines to see how what we should each has changed over the years. Maybe people are just confused about what and how much to eat?

I am not sure what the solution is to our growing national waistline. Right now, I am going to keep tracking and sitting in the meeting room wondering how these other women, men and children got here and … if they ever actually ran the mile in the Presidential Fitness program.

What’s your plan to moving more and eating better? If you have children, how are you going to guide them to better health?